child care and development in Stockbridge, Georgia
  Wise and Wonderful                      
   March 2013   


 


Helping Kids Resolve Conflicts
by Kathy Slattengren, M. Ed.
 
Have you ever noticed that children often seem to be on a mission to create conflict? The minute one child picks up a toy another child decides he absolutely must play with that same toy right now. Boom - it's time to solve another conflict!
 
Learning Life Skills through Conflicts 
 
Conflicts provide rich learning opportunities for children. By continually placing themselves in clashes, children work on developing important life skills like: 
  • Stating their position and understanding of a situation
  • Negotiating resolutions that are acceptable to those involved
  • Appreciating someone else's perspective
  • Establishing boundaries
  • Exercising self-control
Children learn these important life skills when they struggle to resolve their own conflicts. If you jump in and solve the problem for your kids, it reduces their learning opportunity. A better approach is to act as a mentor when your children come to you with a problem. 

Guiding Children to Solving Problems 

Resisting the urge to solve your kids' disagreements is not easy. In her book, Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline, Becky Bailey describes a process to help children solve their own problems. 

Bailey uses the acronym PEACE to make the steps easier to remember:
  1. Discern who owns the problem.
  2. Offer empathy to the child.
  3. Ask the child to think, "What do you think you are going to do?"
  4. Offer choices and suggestions.
  5. Encourage the child to come up with his own solution.
When you get to steps 3 and 4, you may need to help the child think through the likely consequences of an action. For example, if the child says "I'm going to go hit him!" you could ask "How do you think that will work out?" 

The last step can be challenging because you are really leaving it up to the child to decide on a solution. In order to stay in the mentoring role, you need to let your child make the decision. 

Avoiding Taking Sides 

My daughter is 3 years older than my son. When they were young and fighting over something, it was all I could do not to jump in and protect my son. I could clearly see that my daughter had an unfair advantage over him. 

However, I kept reminding myself that if I jumped in to help him I would be teaching him that he needs me to run interference for him. Although he was much younger than her, when I stayed out of the way he found his own methods for defending his position! 

Since we really weren't concerned about them hurting each other, we stayed out of their fights. If their fighting was too loud for indoors, we would guide them to the garage or deck where they could finish their argument and then come back in. If it was cool or rainy, they solved their problem even faster! 

Demonstrating the Power of Sticking Together Versus Fighting 

A mom told a story of sitting down in her backyard with a book to enjoy a few moments of quiet pleasure. No sooner than she was settled into her comfortable chair when she heard her children and their friends begin fighting with each other. This was not the first time that she had been disturbed by their bickering. 

She called them over. Remembering how a father taught his children about fighting in Aesop's Fable "The Bundle of Sticks", she asked them to each get two sticks. They set off to get their sticks and soon they were arguing over who had a certain stick first and whose sticks were better. 

When they finally brought the sticks to her, she asked them to each give her one of their sticks. She tied these sticks up with a ribbon. She then asked the children to break their remaining stick. Each child was easily able to break their stick. 

Next she handed the bundle of sticks tied with the ribbon to the youngest child to break. However, the child could not break the bundle of sticks. All the children were given a turn and none of them could break the bundle of sticks. 

She explained to the children that they are each like one stick that can easily be broken. However when they stay together like the bundle of sticks, they are stronger. What a wonderful demonstration of the power of sticking together instead of fighting!
 

 
Children tend to grow a bit faster in the spring than during any other time of year. 


Kids don't grow at a constant rate. As you may have recalled from your own childhood, kids alternate between weeks or months of slow growth and the occasional "growth spurt". While this can be difficult to predict, these tend to occur more in the spring. 

Other major trends in growth spurts are the major growth spurts from age 8 to 13 for most girls and the growth spurts from age 10 to 15 for most boys. Of course, the biggest growth spurt by far is the one at the first year of your life. You can expect a baby to grow roughly 10 inches before its first birthday. 
 


 
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Meeting the Easter Bunny

By Rowena Bennett, 1930

 

On Easter morn at early dawn
    before the cocks were crowing 
I met a bob-tail bunnykin 
    and asked where he was going 
"Tis in the house and out the
     house a-tipsy, tipsy-toeing, 
Tis round the house and 'bout the      house a-lightly I am going." 
"But what is that of every hue 
     you carry in your basket?" 
"Tis eggs of gold and eggs of blue;
     I wonder that you ask it. 
 
"Tis chocolate eggs and bonbon
    eggs and eggs of red and gray, For every child in every house 
     on bonny Easter day." 
He perked his ears and winked his
    eye and twitched his little
    nose; 
He shook his tail - what tail he
     had - and stood up on his
     toes. 
"I must be gone before the sun;
     the east is growing gray; 
Tis almost time for bells to
     chime." - 
 So he hippety-hopped away.
 

 

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